KNOWING YOUR WORTH AND CLASSIC CARS:
"Knowing your worth takes a lot of inner work." *Setting clear boundaries is first on the list, because as you know you teach people how to treat you. *Self love and 'knowing' you are worth investing in is another biggy. Practise this daily by taking care of you, and treating your mind, body and soul with respect. *Having a deep awareness that if things aren't sitting right with you, it's only up to you to change it and do the work... it's not anyone else's job other than your own. *'Do the work and create the change you want to live with.' I came up with the 'classic car example' after seeing many relationships hit the fan and came to the conclusion... it is about seeing yourself and your partner as an investment. *My awareness and action to change from seeing this play out is knowing what I don't want my future to look like: So I plan to work tirelessly every day on investing in myself so I am not co-dependant or relying on my other 'whole' (not half) to determine my worth.. and I hope he will do the same for himself, from there we will only add to each others worth. I'll explain that below. "What is investing?" Uncle google is sort of not getting the point here today but i'll get to my point on a longer route: "Put (money) into financial schemes, shares, property, or a commercial venture with the expectation of achieving a profit." So... If we add in, time, effort, love and energy as well as money... and change the material investments to 'you' then we will get the idea of what investing really is. *Put 'money' into 'you' with the expectation of achieving a profit. *Put 'time' into 'you' with the expectation of achieving a profit. *Put 'effort' into 'you' with the expectation of achieving a profit. *Put 'love' into 'you' with the expectation of achieving a profit. *Put 'energy' into 'you' with the expectation of achieving a profit. *Knowing your worthy enough to invest in yourself... this is how you know your worth and this is how you will increase your asset. Do this for you... *If you are part of a team, and you want the best for your team/ partner/ family/friends... 'make sure you are it!' 'THE CLASSIC CAR EXAMPLE: Ok, so there are two types of older men tinkering in their garage, both early on in their life they 'invested' in a classic car.. A '68 Fastback Ford Mustang' if we're going to nerd out over classic cars... they both have the same car in their garage. -One takes it out and enjoys it, treats it like a lady. Polishes it, spends time with it, invests in new tyres, makes sure she's serviced and maintained... he makes a conscious effort to notice her every day, appreciates his investment. He sees her worth and sees her beauty as she matures like a fine wine over the years. -The other focuses on work only, he forgets she's there because he's too tired to notice. She becomes a burden and a memory of a good investment. Doesn't try and turn her on... She sits in the garage collecting dust, 'i'll get around to working on her some day.' He likes the idea of having a car, but he's in love with a memory and has no idea of the potential that car could have or what it would be worth if he'd done the work. "Who's car do you believe would be worth the most?" The one who's car looks better than the day he brought it, or the one who's car has been left alone and shown no love? Now.. this is what can happen to a woman or your partner in a marriage or your children if you don't make the time to invest in your classic car. For me personally: I want two classic cars parked in my garage when I am 100, if there's only one and that's me.. that is fine by me. She's going to drive like a song, and be worth a mint because investing in yourself NOW daily and knowing your worth is the car 'key'. If you have something valuable, cherish it! If your person is your rock, see a diamond... even if they are under pressure, even if they've lost their sparkle over time... don't let anything you care about devalue because you forget it exists and take it for granted. "Don't live like tomorrow is promised." Make sure every day you know your worth and your counterpart if you have one, understands that they are your most valuable asset. Treasure them. Hold on to them. Never run a classic car into the ground. But also if he's spending more time on that bloody car than you, go sit on it like you did when you were in your 20s (the car you grub) and remind him of your worth. Dom Whittaker #iwillhelpyoufindyourwhy To book your lifechanging session: www.lifedesignernz.com 68 fastback ford mustang - owned by Steve McQueen (The king of Cool.) |
